Saturday, May 19, 2007

耕耘 = 收获 ?

从小,每个人都对我们灌输 “一份耕耘,一份收获“的概念。换句话说,只要我们努力、不偷懒,就一定会有收获,一定会得到好的成绩。 什么“铁棒磨成针”啦,“乌鸦拾石”啦等等,都成为我们的航导线,让我们深信着,只要为我们的理想努力,就一定会成功的。

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这三、四个星期来,我就是这样“努力”地一个人做四、五个人的工作。跑东跑西,日晒雨淋,也还是咬紧牙根“耕耘”着。

可是,到头来,还是徒劳无功。

我真的是伤心极了, 真的是非常非常心灰意冷。

现在,简直是个哑巴吃黄莲。一方面,面对腐烂不堪的成绩,真想狠狠地教训一番。另一方面,又知道怎么骂也没用,怎么教训也于事无补,还可能越来越糟糕。加上自己身体不舒服,也没心情去讲些什么。所以,到现在为止, 我还没开口骂些什么。

让我更加心烦的,是成绩都已经这么差了,还整天想着玩、想着翻阅漫画书,一点悔过的态度和表现都没有。一点也不想计划一下接下来,应该怎么样补救功课上的缺点,怎样才可以把下一次的考试搞得比较好一些。

即使我已经提议了上十次, 以最心平气和的口语说:“去想一想,应该怎样利用假期的时间来补救、补救,然后我们再来讨论一下应该怎样计划下一个学期的功课。。。”等等,这些苦口婆心的话,都是耳边风。一天到晚,从学校回来,吃了饭、冲了凉,不是趴在地上玩玩具、看漫画,就是躺在床上看天花板。要不,就是趴在沙发上看电视。 简直就像一把烂泥。

有人还建议,下一个学期,让他自己来搞定。为的是,可以看看真正的实力!可以吗?应该吗?

1 comment:

KayAngMo said...

Even normal rubber bands, when stretched too much too often will snap.

Like I always say, Singapore is a society where there is no second chance. No one can afford to "make mistakes" because you have only 1 chance and if you forgo that, you may be streamed into "lousy classes" of not just schools but of society.

Well, you can only do so much, and if he is more a thinker than a doer, perhaps you should work around that approach and not force a Singaporean student way onto him. (sorry, this is my own unsolicited take on the situation).

An artist "tan boh jiat", this may be true, but many times these people are more happy than those working 10 hours a day, rushing here there and everywhere.

If he is "lazy", then let him be (for a while) and let him see the results. If he is not interested in the results, why should any one else be? Parents can only do so much, if the interest is not there, ai ya, never mind lah. It is HIS life.

Perhaps he just needs a wake up call, some time. But when, it is not up to you.

BTW, is he being stretched too much? Does he "enjoy" his school work or his music lessons? During school holidays, it should be a holiday, and not work work and more work from home?

Come on, it may be OUR or YOUR way of life, because of your desired level of living standards, but to him, he may not like or see the need to be so "Bia".

Hmm.
Sorry I got no immediate solutions too.